So today I start blogging – interesting concept blogging as it allow anyone to be a published author without editor’s corrections and anyone rejecting you ... well not directly anyway!

So here I go ... as a committed friend of Carrie Bradshaw and her pals, I am hugely looking forward to the next Sex and The City movie. But I do wonder how they could possibly top the previous film with its happy endings all around and naturally Carrie ended up in married (simple) bliss with Big.

However, the media are whispering that their marriage could be in jeopardy in the next film. Disappointing, frustrating but when you think about it how could a marriage like theirs survive with the history they have? Turbulent affairs, huge let-down’s, broken promises topped off by glorious make-ups – a roller coaster ride of emotion has made their relationship one of the most enduring and intriguing for their audience. They have such a rocky past and so many times has Carrie been hurt by this enigmatic man, how could their marriage survive – unless of course, they have huge reserves of trust, patience and the biggest virtue, forgiveness? Could that be possible?

Which brings me to my point ... why do so many of us drag our past into our future by refusing to truly, 100 per cent honestly forgive? We say we will forgive and forget but who really does? And when I say truly – I mean, who in the heat of an argument will not bring up that past episode that scarred so deeply? It takes deep love and true commitment to a relationship to truly forgive, wipe it from your memory and return to plan A.

I believe that everyone deserves a second chance and part of giving that chance is putting down the armaments and trusting. Do you trust? Or are you still paying out on your past relationship by treating your current partner with a little less trust? And if you are, how is this affecting your relationship? What if you stopped looking for the faults, the perceived deceit and see the truth as it is right now, in front of us – and enjoy it. What if we aimed to teach ourselves to truly trust and enjoy that special zone where life is effortless?

I read once about a person who said she could not trust anyone. She was then asked did she drive a car. ‘Yes’ was the answer. She was then reminded that doing this involved driving down a road each day with the only thing preventing her colliding with the car driving the opposite way is the white line painted down the centre of the road. She agreed she had no problem in doing this – and so therefore she was able of trusting complete strangers. Interesting isn’t it. So we do trust often – we are so trusting of those we know nothing about without question. Well then how about trusting those we love a little more? Do you think it could make life an easier place to be in?