I’ve spent a bit of time on my own this weekend.

My daughter was having a weekend at her Dad’s and my husband has been away on business, so it’s just been me, myself and I.
I’m always craving a bit of peaceful ‘me’ time but it was funny how once I had it I was keen to have the family back around me as I had a strange kind of loneliness which I couldn’t work out.

Then it occurred to me that being alone on the weekend reminded me of those few years when I was a single mum, wondering how life would pan out for me and feeling lost. Wondering how other people found themselves in relationships and how did they make them stick.

What would it be like? How do they do that?

I just wanted a partner at the time – just someone – to keep me company and be my ‘other half’ (which by the way, now I believe that I am a whole person, so although I have a partner I don’t believe I need to have someone else to complete me – complement yes, complete no!)

I don’t think I ever really thought that I could actually ‘choose’ the kind of relationship I wanted, and I never thought ‘strategically’ about finding a partner.
That kind of seemed too calculating.

Shouldn’t finding true love be all about luck and chance meetings?

Isn’t that how it happens in the movies and in the old days and to everyone else?

Stop right there – and get over it.

Romance isn’t made in the way you meet someone – it’s what happens after you meet them – and it doesn’t matter if you meet them through a calculated dating plan or if you bump into them in the art gallery – as long as the ‘feeling’ is right and you are generally attracted to them, it’s all good. And it will still be romantic when you reflect back.

When I woke up to myself and started thinking differently things changed for me. I was divorced and 40 – it’s not the time to drift along. I decided to GET CLEAR on what I wanted and GO FOR IT.

What is the shame in knowing what you want and going out to get it? None! It’s a great empowering feeling – we are in control of our destiny, we don’t have to let life ‘happen to us’ – plus it can take too long sometimes!

I undertook a dramatic change program, which is the same program my seminars and coaching programs are based on now.
I developed my plan for meeting my ideal man and I WENT FOR IT! Calmly confident, with the strongest belief that IT WOULD ABSOLUTELY HAPPEN! And within months, it did.

I set my goal – I developed my plans – I took action every day until my goal was achieved.

I hit the jackpot finding the man of my dreams.

And you can too – once you know what you want and get over being coy about owning up to it and actually doing something strategic about it.

So if you want to meet a man what are you going to do?

Keep going to the same old bars hoping George Clooney will walk in and spot you?

Or are you going to keep going to the same old bar because YOU ENJOY IT THERE (and that’s a good thing) as well as joining the local tennis club, signing up for a language course or booking a place at a speed dating event and going MORE THAN ONCE?

Are you going to get brave and post a profile on an internet dating site and persevere? You may not meet the man of your dreams but you may make a lot of friends and other opportunities to change your life may come through knowing them.

Are you going to revamp your image to make you feel more confident about yourself? What kind of woman would the man of your dreams be looking for? Are you going to change the way you behave – maybe dancing on the bar isn’t the right way to attract the serious man your heart truly desires?

Are you going to take on a coaching program to help you identify the beliefs and strategies you need to have relationship success and to assist you to step out of your comfort zone – (why not look at The Triumph package to really supercharge your life – see http://www.designerlives.com.au/The-Triumph.html )

Are you going to do everything you can to meet someone – because that is not desperate – that is being beautifully honest and brave – or are you just going to keep wishing and making up excuses?

There is a sensational life waiting for those that dare to take a chance and believe in themselves – and that can be you – today.

Change the lonely weekend into one filled with joy, adventure, happiness and confidence by changing your beliefs, stepping up into life and grabbing hold of the reins – I can assure you, you will never look back!